December 2nd, 2008
Recharge with a great coach
Life coaches, Performance coaches, Wellness coaches, Executive coaches. These are becoming everyday terms. With the increased pressure on us to reach for the stars, achieve our goals, fulfill our potential comes the dilemma of how to structure our lives to allow this success. The demands of daily life have never been greater and in this information age when the choice of services, products, guidelines is enormous, how do we come up with a plan to “be our best”? There is a big difference between consultants, mentors and coaches. The former two roles are more of a “telling” or expert role. They are bringing their often superior knowledge to the relationship and we learn from them. They tend to take responsibility for the learning and teaching process. A coach is quite different.
What a coach will do is:
- Act as a support person and “cheerleader”
- Help you find your own solutions
- Facilitate your path to change
- Let you take the lead
- Be a mirror to reflect your insights and awareness
- Affirm your strengths
- Show empathy and acceptance
- Hold you accountable
A coach is someone who will help you get there. A coach will not:
- Tell you what to do,
- Take on the responsibility
- Constantly offer advice
- Design your plan
Get the picture? If you find the right match for you, a coach can help you climb any mountain. But how do we find a great coach when there are so many people out there claiming to be just that?
A good check list might look something like this:
A great coach will:
- Be passionate and energetic in their commitment to help you be your best
- Be astute enough to recognize what is important to you, not them.
- Walk the talk
- Only offer expert advice at pivotal moments
- Have clear focus and positive and confident outlook
- Believe in you
- Be trained in coach psychology and the area that they are working in
It is a good idea to meet with a potential coach first to find out if you are comfortable with each other and you can connect with that person. Your coach will foster self acceptance and self respect and not hold themselves out to have all the answer. They will have a knack for honing in on our strengths, desires and values. Coaches are great listeners and enjoy our stories. Ask them about how they structure their sessions. A good coach will have a model they follow (but not their own agenda), which will become a vehicle for you to help you move towards your goals. They usually offer a program rather than a one-off session, understanding that change takes time and a methodical approach.
A coach needs to be able to take risks and confront us when necessary, yet at the same time be playful when appropriate and make the sessions fun - not just hard work. A good coach will not rescue us when we hit a difficult place but let us work through the dilemma. They will understand the importance of our journey and help us celebrate each successful step. They will eventually leave us with greater self knowledge, confidence and belief in our own abilities and if all goes according to plan – the ability to live a more fulfilling life.
Fiona Cosgrove has over 20 years experience in the wellness & fitness industry - owning and managing clubs in Australia and Asia, including No 1 Martin Place, NSW Fitness Centre of the Year, 2006. Fiona is the author of Coach Yourself to Wellness and she regularly runs corporate seminars and workshops in the areas of healthy lifestyle, motivation and wellness.

















