recharge your relationships
Nurture those close to you
Recharging your relationships is about putting energy into the right relationships, and sometimes getting out of the wrong relationships. Understand with different generations that different doesn’t necessarily mean wrong and you’ll learn how to develop skills to nourish and nurture those close to you.
Find your third place
As a workplace performance consultant working with thousands of people each year, the number one complaint I hear is that people don’t get enough time to spend with their family. Yet when most people get home what are they thinking about? ……. WORK!!!! Due to the rising levels of stress and pressure fewer and fewer people are truly engaged and present with their family members at the end of the day. Most people arrive home and even though they have physically left the office, mentally they are still there.
What is going wrong? Why are we performing better at work than we are at home? One of the reasons why people are finding it hard to switch off at the end of the day is that we are not tapping into the mindset of the home environment. Every external environment has a specific mindset and when we successfully adopt that mind set we become less stressed, more present and more successful in that environment.
Read more from Dr. Adam Fraser
Recharge your relationships
Satisfying and fulfilling relationships are sought after by the vast majority of people. So why does it seem so difficult sometimes to achieve this? Research tells us that happiness depends to some extent on having good quality relationships, yet divorce rates are rising and the average number and duration of marriages is falling.
Whether you believe that your current relationship is particularly unfulfilling or generally pretty good, you can always improve its quality by making some (often small) changes. There is an extensive body of research investigating the factors that contribute to satisfying relationships, as well as what factors make a relationship more likely to fail. The following list of suggestions incorporates beliefs, skills and concepts that have been taken from that research. Whilst they are written with intimate relationships in mind, many of the strategies can also be applied to friendships and family relationships.
Clear clutter to clean up your life
Feeling frustrated, lethargic or like you have stagnated? Or feel like you just can’t move on from a broken relationship? Clearing out your material clutter can re-energise you and give you a new lease on life. Maya Anderson reports.
If you’ve ever felt peaceful or satisfied after you’ve given a messy room a good cleanout, there’s a reason. According to feng shui and clutter clearing consultant Nidia Hansen from Global Feng Shui having clutter in your home or workplace creates stagnation in your life in a variety of ways. “Clutter clearing is a modern and helpful means of making a difference in your life,” Ms Hansen said.
Read entire article by Maya Anderson
Room for a friend
If a man does not make new acquaintances as he advances through life, he will soon find himself alone.’ Samuel Johnson
It’s funny how some days you think you have all the friends in the world and then others, you wake up and wonder who you can catch up with for a drink or dinner or a walk.
During school and university, it’s generally pretty easy to make friends. You’re surrounded by people of similar ages and your lives have enough common ground for you to be able to relate to one another. For most people, those friendships last comfortably into their twenties or even thirties but after that, things often start to change.
Read the entire article by Kate James
Marriage and the other stuff I am meant to do
Being a single bloke in his forties draws all kinds of comments, suggestions, inferences and questions from a broad cross-section of people, with responses ranging from pity to surprise, through to outright jealousy. Apparently the most interesting thing about me (for some people) is my wife-less-ness (a Craigism). Clearly there’s something weird, dark and dysfunctional about me that needs to be explored and explained.
Or… I could just be a happy, single bloke. Naaah. Pity
Women periodically feel sorry for me (while simultaneously trying to hook me up with their sister, cousin, neighbour or girlfriend), while blokes have been known to ask if I’d be interested in trading lives with them.
Read the entire article by Craig Harper
Lasting Relationships
‘We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.’ Sam Keen
Given how much we change over the course of our adult lives, it seems only natural that we will occasionally experience difficult times within our long term relationships. Whether they be with friends, partner or family, charting a completely smooth course throughout the years isn’t always easy. I would actually go so far as to say that a long term relationship without the occasional glitch along the way is potentially not a completely open one.